Cinderella Poem


What is Cinderella in the modern world like?

Cinderella in Real Life Cinderella might be a story told every night, but the real Cinderella is really quite a sight. She doesn't have an evil stepmom, you know. The real Cinderella actually loves to play in the snow. There aren't tiny mice that will help her collect things. The real Cinderella tackles whatever life brings. There aren't birds that bring her ribbon or lace. The real Cinderella has discovered her own grace. There isn't an evil cat that always seems to be in the way. The real Cinderella snuggles with her cat every day. There aren't sisters that like to bully her all of the time. The real Cinderella has more of a problem finding work full-time. There isn't a magic fairy godmother to help her out. The real Cinderella works hard and never has a pout. There isn't any magic that will help to get her chores done. The real Cinderella always cleans her own room before having fun. There isn't a giant pumpkin that turns into a car. The real Cinderella takes the bus if she needs to ride far. There isn't a pair of glass slippers to put on. The real Cinderella finds shoes using Groupon. There isn't a beautiful dress that will magically get made. The real Cinderella goes down to the thrift shop to make a trade. There isn't a dog who will get turned into a footman. The real Cinderella has a dog who likes to bark at guys named Stan. There won't be a royal ball to attend. The real Cinderella has smoothies to blend. There won't be the chance to dance away the night. The real Cinderella gets up to work before the morning light. There isn't any need to stoop dancing at midnight. The real Cinderella has already fallen asleep by 8pm tonight. There isn't any need to run away. The real Cinderella runs on her treadmill every day anyway. There isn't any waiting around for a Duke to stop on over. The real Cinderella doesn't even believe in a four-leaf clover. There isn't a need to try on a glass slipper that fits like a glove. The real Cinderella watches The Bachelor in order to find love. There isn't any ending to the story that makes people feel good. The real Cinderella just takes a walk around her neighborhood. There isn't a happily ever after – at least not yet. That's something the real Cinderella would love to see, you can bet. Fairy tales are an incredible way to get away into a fantasy world. We can cheer for Cinderella, Snow White, or another favorite girl. They can overcome the odds and become whatever they want to be. In the Fairy Tale world, it's pretty easy, you see. In the real world, dreams still can come true. The real Cinderellas of the world just have work to do. You can be whoever you want to be one day. There just won't be a fairy godmother who pops out to play. The real Cinderella is just as happy as the one in the story. She takes satisfaction in finding perfect moments of glory. Are you ready to discover the real you? Then being a real Cinderella is what you've got to do.

Nature versus Fairy Tales


Since the beginning of Mankind, people have looked to Nature to explain the world around them. As people progressed and their thoughts became more complex, they began to use the aspects and forces of Nature as symbols of their beliefs. The world can be a very scary place, and having real objects which hold powerful meanings can be a soothing and motivating method of survival. As natural objects began to take on meaning for events, natural events began to take on relevance to stories invented by people. Human nature includes the desire to see personality and human traits reflected in the outside world. People crave validation of what they do by seeing similar events unfold in explainable ways. The sun sets. A day ends. This cycle comes to represent life as a whole. The sun rises, a day begins. People can relate this to the birth of a child, the planting of crops, the founding of a village, and so on. The cycle continues. With the advancement of society, stories became more complex. Humans began to incorporate the forces of nature, good and bad, into likenesses and powers within human beings. In other words, the concept of super powers was born. This is the origin of myth and legend. Thor, the Norse God is a good example. All of the gods of ancient Greece and Rome are great illustrations of this also. Virtually all of the old gods had some responsibility and control over a part of nature that was crucial to early life in these dramatic civilizations. The Egyptians came before that. The stories of Gilgamesh from ancient Sumeria parallel almost every story in the Bible; which brings us to modern religion, and Christianity. The religions of most first-world countries today center on monotheism, or one God; and almost exclusively on human figures without any special ties to nature. Moses parted the Red Sea; but he didn’t live in the sea, nor did he have a tail like Poseidon. One exception is angels having wings. Christianity, however, is a great segue into fairy tales. About the time that Christianity was spreading, there were still holdouts in the old world that believed in natural gods and mythical creatures. These people were called Pagans. They still exist today; but not in the true sense that they did in the Middle Ages and before. True Pagans worshipped Nature. In this religion they created things such as fairies and nymphs. Other creatures, such as trolls and goblins also abounded. They almost always lived in the forest, and they always had a hard connection to their natural surroundings. These beings existed because the holy men of Paganism, the Druids, were like witch doctors of the woods. They used things like “Fairy Dust” and “Elvish Medicine” to treat and heal people of their pastoral villages. Although imaginary inventions, these devices were critical in making the people under their care believe in the Druids. So, this was the first instance of Nature versus Fairy Tales.

Fairytales Facts


Fairytales: More than Just a Figment of Our Imagination? When we think about fairytales in the present day, we most likely associate the term with a childish denotation of meaningless stories that lack substance. For example, we know that the Tooth Fairy does not magically visit our room and place money under our pillow for every tooth we lose. Regardless of the beliefs that have been correlated with fairy stories, there has been a significant amount of research supporting the benefits of reading them to children. When we think of these tales, we think about the characters we admire and the villains who want to hurt our protagonists. We remember the dilemmas and the obstacles the characters go through to reach a happy ending. Does that mean that we are feeding our children false stories, or is there more to it? Are we creating false hope for our children? Some may wonder if child stories are always appropriate for “read aloud” time if they always result in happy endings. Is that the truth? Are we setting the standards high for future fairytales that children will hear? It is to no one’s surprise that child stories have been known to delude children from reality causing them to assume that everything will work out for them one way or another. So why would I continue to lie to my children? First of all, the idea of having a story time before a child’s bedtime creates a new type of relationship and tradition between a child and a parent. It means that the parent is doing this for not only the child’s enjoyment and anticipation as he looks forward to a new story, but there is a type of indirect discipline that goes into it; the tradition can only continue if the child is tucked into bed, and the child can only be tucked into bed if he has brushed his teeth, which can only happen after dinner, which can happen after homework is finished, and the list goes on. The real benefits from the fairy stories are showing children how to handle these problems; it is actually an eye-opener for adults to read these because we can relate to the characters in ways that we probably could not when we were younger. The scenarios build a type of emotional boundary that makes readers aware that these tales are not filled with only happy people and happy events; Ariel from The Little Mermaid had Ursula just as Dorothy from The Wonderful Wizard of Oz had the Wicked Witch of the West. These difficulties create awareness for children to realize that everyone in this world needs to overcome some type of obstacle before reaching the happy ending that they strive. Fairytales introduce essential traits such as politeness and good friendship, as well as situations where moral guidance is encouraged in cases where the “villains” are introduced. These stories work up their imagination as they begin to predict—or stand corrected in astonishment—with every turn in every story. With these turns of events, fairy stories can provide a good moral of the story. Children can learn from the story being The Little Mermaid and decide (with the guidance of an adult) if it is the right decision to leave your own homeland for a gentleman, or Tarzan, where Jane willingly left her civilization to be with the man of her dreams in the forest. Regardless, child stories are a part of children’s lives for the betterment of their learning environment. They help children develop moral and ethical skills, helping parents create a connection with their child as they share their beliefs on what is considered “wrong” and “right”. Fairytales create a good relationship and generally a good developmental stage for their lives as they transition into school and being with peers. Fairy stories are more than just an imagination—they have shaped the lives of adults, and it is nothing but beneficial for children to continue this route. We may not want to believe it, but child stories stay with us forever! So, it is your responsibility as a parent to encourage your child to read and learn rather than watching kid’s movies where there’s nothing much to learn.

Ways to Encourage Kindness in Children

When we read the news these days, no doubt we can all agree that the bad guys have one thing in common. Whether they are acting on religious beliefs, or some political motive, or they are suffering from some documented mental issue, in the end their cruel and vicious acts all have one result. What is that result? Hurting innocent people. What do they all have in common? They are all cowards. Yes, they were all taught right from wrong at one point; and at a later point, they decided to put those fundamentals of right and wrong away. They sold the basic premise of human life to some intangible idea that really helps no one. Therefore, encouraging kindness in children is just that: It is putting “courage” into children to always do the right thing; and if they don’t know what the right thing is at the time, to reach out and ask someone for the answer. Getting help from others: It will always be our responsibility as human beings, no matter how disadvantaged or privileged we become. Courage will always be a human responsibility. Kindness is the action of love. Many religions say that God is love. Love can be kind, and love can be tough when it has to be used to correct someone. When we correct someone with love, we are really teaching them that evil will never be tolerated, never win, never be accepted by good people. In essence, then, we are encouraging kindness in children by showing them what the absence of love feels like. It is an indirect way, without resorting to violence, without stooping to anyone’s level, to show children what the opposite of kindness is. This is the background for the ‘time out’ method of discipline. It is the removal of the child from all he enjoys. It is cause for pause, a time to reflect on the “why” they are no longer involved in what they enjoy. Worse than time out would be showing a child literally what it feels like to have done to them what they have done to someone else. Breaking a toy, calling a bad name, running and hiding with other friends for example. This type of teaching would be extreme. There are enough hard knocks in life for a child to encounter without our heaping any more on them. This is where the fable of the North Wind and the Sun comes into play. We learned as children the story of how the Sun got a man to take his coat off simply by shining warmth on him; as opposed to the Wind’s failed efforts of forcing cold air on him. We catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. It is up to us as adults to take the high road, because children learn by doing; more importantly, kids first learn by copying. Kids don’t understand concepts like cowardice. Try to connect a criminal’s act to the Cowardly Lion in the Wizard of Oz, and you will only confuse a child. All they see is a bold, brazen bad guy versus a trembling old fool. Tell them that the guy with the gun is a coward, and they may stop listening to you. Instead, show them kindness where cruelty might prevail. Always remain calm, even when all else around you is falling in and people are flailing. The control of anger and emotions is the single most important trait that you can teach a child. When a child sees you act with a smile and a solution when everyone else is failing, he or she will think of you as their super hero. Children remember good times, and children remember bad times. The bad times are usually when they were punished in anger. These memories haunt them and affect their actions for their entire lives. Secondly, always look for the most ideal way to handle a situation when sorting out a dispute or argument among children. Do not resort to cynicism and practical anecdotes collected over a lifetime of hard knocks. Always go with the Golden Rule: Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Always go with this rule, and children will learn it. Lastly, children may not have the intellectual capacity to internalize conceptual rules, but that capacity will come with age and wisdom. It is the teaching of the actions that must come first. Remember, baby steps. Stupid is as stupid does. But don’t repeat that last one to your kids!